Unusual HPV/Genital Wart Situation – Spreading to girlfriend & How I got it?
April 24, 2009 by admin
I have been with my gf since 5/06&have not had outside sexual contact with anyone&prior to her,my last partner was 2/06. Before that, 10/03. In 11/07,I noticed a bump on the opening of my urethra, initially dismissing it.I then noticed other bumps on the penis, but also thought they were perhaps just skin tags/hair follicles.In 1/08,I started to get worried that this was not healing and went to see a urologist,who said it was very likely a case of HPV/Genital Warts.2 weeks ago,I had the bumps removed and sent for biopsy,confirming the diagnosis. My gf then went to her gynecologist. Her last pap was 9/07&"normal." She had the more accurate HPV DNA test performed last week, and yesterday received a call saying it was negative.We have had sex since 11/07 when this started,so I don't understand how she's negative,without having received the vaccine.Now I'm being accused of cheating and this is all is VERY hurtful.Someone help me understand this virus,I don't even get how I was infected 
Believe me I'm thrilled for her, and she is going to get the vaccine. I really hope she can get over this, to be accused like this and know you're innocent and unable to prove it is one of the worst feelings I have ever had to experience. How I got it, honestly, remains a mystery to me and is bothering me to a great degree – I guess I could have had this since as far back as 2003 and not realized it.
Also – since she was on birth control we did not use condoms as all else seemed to be in order until this came up. Diva79, what do you mean by the soap theory or the blood problem?
Your mother could have passed it to you during birth, and people can go their entire lives with the hpv virus on board and never have a wart themselves.
She may have it, but is not showing up positive yet, or you were not shedding the virus until 11/07. Have you been using condoms as well? That could explain her being negative as well. Good for both of you, if you were!
If you have been using those with a nonoxyl 9 spermicide, studies are coming out that it may help block HPV
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=82267
and here for info about HPV in general. She needs to get the vaccine asap, though.
http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_hpv_warts.cfm
Please try not to take her confusion and anger to heart right now. She is as scared and confused as you are. She also does not understand the virus and is jumping to the first and easiest conclusion. I am sure this is just one more stress for you (being accused of cheating) right now that you just do not need.
Honestly, I would go to the website I gave you with her and have an open discussion with her. Then I would have her come to your next appointment with you so she can ask your doctor everything she needs to know about it. Hopefully then she can put her fears of infidelity to rest. Just keep assuring her that it is NOT the case and that you love her. Try empathy and tell you understand why she would fear that you cheated, but it simply is not the case. and yes, you could have been infected in 05 and just never showed any symptoms.
Here is another excellent website:
http://health.rutgers.edu/hpv/